by Rachael Roberts | Jan 19, 2021 | Career, Emotions, Happiness, Saying no
Have you ever continued doing a course you don’t actually find useful, or stayed in an unsatisfying relationship because you’ve already invested so much time and effort in making it work? Or perhaps you’ve kept something you don’t like because it was expensive?...
by Rachael Roberts | Oct 13, 2020 | Anxiety, Emotions, Happiness, MIndfulness, Personal Development, Saying no, Stress
If there’s one word that should come with a big flashing neon light around it, it’s ‘should’. The German psychoanalyst Karen Horney perceptively talked about “the tyranny of the should.” What does it mean if we say that we should do something? It...
by Rachael Roberts | Sep 1, 2020 | Emotions, Happiness, Negativity, Personal Development, Saying no
I hate the term self-improvement. Even the term personal development is slightly dodgy, though I use it for want of anything better. Why do I resist these terms? Because you don’t ever need to improve yourself. You are just fine. Any problems you are encountering are...
by Rachael Roberts | Aug 18, 2020 | Negativity, Personal Development, Saying no
To what extent do you believe that your fate is in your own hands? If you go for a job interview, do you believe that the result is largely a matter of luck or the interviewer’s mood on the day, or does it depend more heavily on the preparation you did, and of course...
by Rachael Roberts | Jul 21, 2020 | Burnout, Personal Development, Saying no, Stress
We all know that being kind and generous to others makes us feel good. But how often are we similarly giving and nurturing to ourselves? More often than not we treat ourselves in a way we would never dream of doing to anyone else. When I ask, ‘What can I give myself...
by Rachael Roberts | Jul 14, 2020 | Burnout, Overwhelm, Relationships, Saying no, Stress
Maybe you suspect you’re a people pleaser? You find it hard to say no, you rarely put your own needs first, you hate the idea of being disliked or criticised. You’re probably aware that this kind of behaviour often leads to you taking too much on, and being...
