We often can’t control what others around us are doing, but we can always choose how we respond to it.
If you often feel stressed, anxious or resentful it’s probably a sign that you care too much about other people’s judgements of you. Because you care, you find yourself keeping quiet about your true feelings, doing things you really don’t want to do and imagining that other people are (or might easily be) upset with you.
Why is it that we remember and focus on negative feedback or criticism so much more than praise? As with many things, we’re actually all wired that way.
Apparently Eleanor Roosevelt didn’t actually say ‘do one thing that scares you every day’, as is often said, but nevertheless it’s a great rule to follow. You don’t need to go on a fairground ride, or jump out of a plane, but it is a good idea to push yourself out of your comfort zone regularly.
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Next time you feel infuriated with someone’s behaviour, that it’s unjust or rude, or whatever label you’re giving it to justify yourself getting angry with them, try applying Rule Number Six and see what happens.
Ultimately developing patience isn’t about being passive, but about truly taking control of the only thing you really can control- how you respond to what life throws at you.
We should be cautious about trusting our ‘gut feelings’, because they are based on fear.
If I could only tell you one thing to help you on your path to being more aware, and living a happier, more balanced life, it’s this: going backwards is absolutely part of the process.