Blog Posts
Why emotional agility is far more powerful than ‘positive thinking’.
Everyone has negative thoughts and emotions. But what’s the best way to deal with these?
Sometimes we hear people saying things like ‘turn that frown upside down’ or no ‘negative vibes here’….
I do believe that it’s possible to shift a negative perspective, but it’s absolutely crucial to understand that this is not about ignoring or minimising the negative thought or emotion.
Chop chop! Hurry up! Shake a leg!
I like to think of myself as productive and efficient, but what that often really means is that I have a strong tendency to try and fit too much in, and end up working against the clock. I have a strong ‘Hurry Up’ driver.
How to stop trying to please everyone
Pleasing people feels good. We all like it when people give us positive feedback and approve of what we’re doing. But if we’re constantly second guessing what will please everyone, we’re setting ourselves up for anxiety and discomfort.
Do positive affirmations actually work?
For those of you who might not know, an affirmation is a positive statement that you repeat to yourself as a fact. E.g. ‘I am beautiful inside and out.’
Now I don’t know about you, but that does somewhat make me cringe, even after all the work I’ve done. It just feels too much, and I can already hear my Inner Troll laughing sarcastically.
Confidence doesn’t come from ‘fake it til you make it’.
Some people teach that developing self confidence is about learning to pretend to be self confident until eventually you are. ‘Fake it ‘til you make it’.
How to ask for what you want, say no when you need to, and live more authentically.
Assertiveness is the ability to say how we feel and/or ask for what we want when we choose to. Many people struggle with being more assertive generally, while others only find it an issue in certain situations or with certain people.
Why we often struggle with self-compassion
Self-compassion is about treating yourself as well as you would treat a good friend, rather than in a way you would never do to anyone else. It’s pretty clear this isn’t helpful, so why is it so hard to stop?
Do we need someone else in our lives to be complete?
Many people feel that if they don’t have a life partner, they are somehow incomplete. We see this all the time in movies and books. They say things like ‘you complete me’, or talk about their ‘other or better half’.
Why you need ‘stability zones’ in your life.
If you find dealing with change and uncertainty difficult, you are not alone. That's simply part of the human condition. Some people find this harder than others, but it generally isn’t that easy for any of us because change and uncertainty is potentially threatening,...
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