Everyone has negative thoughts and emotions. But what’s the best way to deal with these?
Sometimes we hear people saying things like ‘turn that frown upside down’ or no ‘negative vibes here’….
I do believe that it’s possible to shift a negative perspective, but it’s absolutely crucial to understand that this is not about ignoring or minimising the negative thought or emotion.
I like to think of myself as productive and efficient, but what that often really means is that I have a strong tendency to try and fit too much in, and end up working against the clock. I have a strong ‘Hurry Up’ driver.
Pleasing people feels good. We all like it when people give us positive feedback and approve of what we’re doing. But if we’re constantly second guessing what will please everyone, we’re setting ourselves up for anxiety and discomfort.
For those of you who might not know, an affirmation is a positive statement that you repeat to yourself as a fact. E.g. ‘I am beautiful inside and out.’
Now I don’t know about you, but that does somewhat make me cringe, even after all the work I’ve done. It just feels too much, and I can already hear my Inner Troll laughing sarcastically.
Some people teach that developing self confidence is about learning to pretend to be self confident until eventually you are. ‘Fake it ‘til you make it’.
Assertiveness is the ability to say how we feel and/or ask for what we want when we choose to. Many people struggle with being more assertive generally, while others only find it an issue in certain situations or with certain people.
Self-compassion is about treating yourself as well as you would treat a good friend, rather than in a way you would never do to anyone else. It’s pretty clear this isn’t helpful, so why is it so hard to stop?
Many people feel that if they don’t have a life partner, they are somehow incomplete. We see this all the time in movies and books. They say things like ‘you complete me’, or talk about their ‘other or better half’.
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